A recent article published by Metro.co.uk has drawn attention for examining subtle behaviours that may signal poor sexual intimacy, with expert insight from Edinburgh based clinical psychologist Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.
The feature, published on 3rd December 2025 and written by Jessica Lindsay, is titled “11 telltale signs you’re bad in bed and how to get better.” It brings together perspectives from several sex and relationship specialists to highlight common habits that can undermine sexual satisfaction.
Dr Bisbey contributes commentary on the importance of presence during intimate moments, describing distraction as “incredibly common” and a key warning sign. She explains that satisfying sex depends on all partners being mentally and emotionally engaged with one another and with the experience itself. When attention drifts, intimacy can feel disconnected and less fulfilling.
To help address this, Dr Bisbey suggests a simple sensory grounding technique. She advises focusing on a specific sensation, such as a sound or visual detail, and returning attention to it whenever the mind wanders. This approach is intended to deepen engagement, improve responsiveness, and strengthen shared awareness between partners.
The article outlines 11 indicators of poor bedroom experiences, including difficulties with communication, emotional distance, inconsistent initiation of intimacy, and repetitive patterns that gradually reduce satisfaction in long term relationships.
Other experts featured in the piece stress the importance of openness, mutual effort, and viewing sex as a shared experience rather than an individual performance. One example offered is an exercise where partners alternate five minutes of giving pleasure with five minutes of receiving it, reinforcing balance, attentiveness, and collaboration.
While the article acknowledges that many people may recognise some of these behaviours in themselves, it emphasises that improvement is possible through self awareness and willingness to change. According to the experts, persistent problems tend to arise only when individuals resist reflection or effort.
Dr Bisbey’s contribution reflects her broader professional focus on fostering authentic and fulfilling relationships. With more than 30 years of experience, she works with individuals and couples across a range of gender, sexuality, and relationship structures, including consensual non monogamy and kink aware therapy. Her practice also supports people recovering from sexual trauma.
She is the host of the podcast The A to Z of Sex and appears as a specialist relationship therapist on Channel 4’s Open House: The Great Sex Experiment. Her published work includes erotic fiction and memoirs addressing trauma and recovery.
The Metro feature encourages readers to reflect on their own habits and consider practical steps to strengthen intimacy. It also reflects growing public interest in sexual well-being, particularly within long term relationships.
