It is normal that, as human beings, we experience feeling anger. It is a feeling that is very familiar to all human beings. We might have different triggers for feeling anger but as a human, it is normal and valid to feel this.
As we all know, everything that is too much will not lead us to all kinds of good.
Having too much anger and being unable to manage is a risky path. Our uncontrolled temper will affect us and the people around us, and once we make a move and let our anger take over control of us, we can never undo things.
So, how do we practice letting our anger be manageable?
Let us have first the signs of anger issues – This includes such as hurting other people either verbally or physically; even the smallest or petty things trigger your anger, you are kept on getting angry over the same reasons again and again, and you tend to break things around you when you feel anger, alcoholic drinks lead you to become angry, you have your physical symptoms when you get angry to wither your headaches, sweat, heart palpitations, or anxious feeling.
Maintaining our anger can be a challenging task. Here are some tips to help us deal with and manage our anger.
Think before you speak
It’s easy to say something you’ll regret later when you’re under emotion. Before you speak, take a moment to gather your thoughts. Let others who are involved in the situation do the same as well.
When you are calm, speak about your concerns
When you can speak clearly, be forceful yet non-aggressive when you vent your dissatisfaction. Clearly and simply express your demands and concerns without inflicting harm or attempting to exert control over others.
Start exercising or doing some physical activity
Exercise can aid in reducing stress, which can make you furious. If you notice your wrath growing, take a quick stroll or run. Perhaps spend some time engaging in some other fun physical activity.
Take a pause
During difficult times of the day, allow yourself brief pauses. If you have a few quiet moments, you could feel more equipped to manage what is ahead without becoming upset or angry.
Look for possible solutions
Work on fixing the problem at hand rather than dwelling on the thing that enraged you. Also, please be aware that some circumstances are simply beyond your control. About what you can and cannot change, try to be practical. Remind yourself that becoming angry won’t help and can even worsen things.
Anger signals that we need to act to make things right. It bolsters our stamina and vigour and inspires us to take action. But, for others, rage can spiral out of control and lead to issues in their personal lives, careers, and even with the police. If your anger appears out of control, makes you do things you regret, or hurts those around you, seek therapy for anger issues.
Do not let our temporary emotions lead us to permanent life losses.
Dina Relojo is the social media manager of Psychreg. She is a high school teacher from the Philippines.