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10 Tips to Help You Conquer Imposter Syndrome

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Imposter syndrome isn’t a medical condition, even though it sounds like it should be. It is simply a persistent inability to believe that your success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved due to your own efforts or skills. It leads to self-doubt, negative feelings, and not taking opportunities when they come along, plus it can also be linked to anxiety and depression. 

Sufferers feel like one day someone is going to tap them on the shoulder and tell them they’ve been rumbled. Symptoms include: 

  • Crediting luck for any success you may have
  • Fear of being seen as a failure
  • Feeling that overworking is the only way to meet expectations
  • Feeling unworthy of attention or affection
  • Not asking questions in meetings or lectures (or in the classroom)
  • Downplaying your accomplishments
  • Holding back from reaching goals you should be able to reach
  • Thinking that your peers are more capable than you are 

But imposter syndrome only exists in your head. No one is about to tap you on the shoulder, and the irony is that genuine imposters don’t suffer from imposter syndrome. So, what can you do?

Here are my top 10 imposter syndrome coping strategies:

1. Realise you’re not the only sufferer

For some reason, we fail to acknowledge that other people feel exactly the same as we do.

Social media is an excellent example – everyone presents an airbrushed view of themselves to the world, and the only warts-and-all view of somebody we ever get is of ourselves. We know all too well that underneath our carefully polished social media accounts there lies a person who has had their fair share of failures and screw-ups. Not to mention all those terrible photos of you that you could never post because they’re so awful. In other words, we perceive everyone else as being “perfect”, but we know that we are not. 

Stop thinking that you’re the fraudulent card in the pack.

2. Make a note of your accomplishments

Create a list that you can refer to when you have moments of doubt, one that reminds you of how great you are and that other people think you’re great too. This may seem simplistic, but many sufferers swear by it as it helps reframe their minds and evaporate those less helpful thoughts.

3. Don’t compare yourself to others

We usually totally overestimate how skilful or successful other people are. The reality is that everyone else feels just as insecure as you do. There’s a great quote by the ladies’ fashion designer Diane von Furstenberg, who said: You always look at the woman across the room. And you think, “The woman across the room is so confident, so poised and so put together, and so on.” But that woman is looking at YOU. And for her, YOU are the woman across the room. Everybody’s the same. It’s just a big waste of time to be insecure.”

4. Talk to others

This can give you more confidence and help you see that your thoughts are irrational – particularly when you talk to someone you believe has a good opinion of you. Don’t be afraid to share your feelings about imposter syndrome with others – you may find they’re experiencing the same issues as you.

5. Don’t get stuck in a cycle of ‘I can’t do this’ 

Those fraudulent feelings can all too easily prevent you from taking action, and as a result, you won’t apply for that job or take up a hobby or sport. Success in anything only exists outside your comfort zone, so you need to take action – feel the fear and do it anyway, even if your head is full of self-doubt. As your comfort zone expands, have confidence in the fact that your levels of anxiety will reduce automatically.

6. Celebrate your successes

We’re not very good at celebrating our successes generally, and it’s a real missed opportunity. Celebrating success helps dispel thoughts that we’re undeserving and gives us confidence in our abilities. Also, make a point of celebrating both large and small wins. Imposter syndrome sufferers tend to move on too quickly and treat wins with relief rather than celebrating them.

7. Stop being a perfectionist

If 100% is perfection, you must stop thinking that only doing a job to 99% is a failure. Appreciate that other person may only be capable of doing the same job to 70%, so achieving 80% will be good enough, and 90% will be better than most. It’s not about lowering the bar – it’s simply reframing how well you’ve done and what you’ve achieved. Also, most jobs don’t need to be done 100%. Perfectionists can spend the same time again getting a job from 80% to 100%, whereas they could have used that time to do a second task to 80% and get much more done.

8. Share your failures

We often see other people’s successes but not their flops, whereas we always see our own failures. This gives us a poor perspective and makes us think of ourselves as being less capable in comparison. Opening up with others can help demonstrate that you’re no different and that everyone has the same issues as you do. It can take a leap of faith (after all, we’re not naturally predisposed to want to share our shortcomings) but the fruits can be well worth the labour. Ironically, it can often be easier to open up to strangers than those who know you well.

9. Reframe failure as a positive

Samuel Beckett once said: “Ever tried, ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better,” and to be fair to him, he pretty much nailed it. Failure is not a sign of being rubbish; it’s a sign that you’re trying to achieve something, and you need to give yourself credit for this. It’s not easy to succeed the first time out – ask any billionaire or successful inventor. But one thing is certain if you never try, you’ll never fail, and you’ll never become successful.

10. Reframe your position

Fear can often be the prevailing emotion when it comes to imposter syndrome, but you need to put it back in its box and look at the situation through a different lens. Instead of thinking, “Just wait until they find out I don’t know what I’m doing,” what about changing this to, “I may not know all the answers, but I’m smart enough to figure them out”? It’s a far more empowering way of looking at your situation.

Final thoughts

Hopefully, there are a few tips in that lot that will help if you’re suffering from imposter syndrome (and let’s face it, there’s a fair chance that you are, statistically speaking). Too often, imposter syndrome holds people back from achieving their full potential, but recognising it for what it is, is a huge step towards fixing it. And if you’re reading this article thinking that some of those imposter syndrome symptoms resonated, welcome to the club.


Ian Child is a former corporate leader, co-founder of the training company propertyCEO, and the author of “Your Own Personal Time Machine“, a guide to getting your life back.

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