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5 Tips on How to Be a Better Listener

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I have been accused of being a bad listener several times. At times, I am guilty of being a lousy listener and I want to change that. If you are also guilty of this, quit arguing and look for some help.

Research reveals that we tend to remember merely 25% of what we hear. Developing the ability to really listen helps to build strong social and professional relationships. Read on to find out how to become a better listener.

Don’t overestimate your ability to multitask

With the chatter in the office, while I’m doing working on a report, I sometimes wonder if my brain can split its attention. Truth is, it’s just a hype: we are not capable of focusing on multiple tasks at once. We simply aren’t. We think we are, but what’s happening is our brain is jumping back and forth between the tasks, focusing briefly one at a time. And when we multitask, we simply aren’t listening at all. 

Look at the speaker

When I was at University, I had this lecturer who always wants to see students’ faces while she’s talking. She argues that making eye contact is a simple yet effective way to demonstrate your respect and attention. I agree with here. There’s nothing that more quickly signals ‘I’m not paying attention’ than staring over someone’s head.

Never assume

Our biases and stereotypes can cloud our judgement. These can just make us unreceptive and don’t want to hear anything else from anyone else, even those closest to us. While the person may say one thing, ultimately you can only hear something else, simply because your mind is not open to receiving new information, to begin with. 

Ask questions

This helps you confirm what you just heard and also signals to the speaker that you are interested with what has just been told. But of course, ask relevant questions. Here are some tips to help you with asking the right questions

Make it a habit to actively listen

Listening goes beyond hearing words. It’s an active process that requires practice. Listening is not something that just happens (that is hearing); listening is an active process in which a conscious decision is made to listen to and understand the messages of the speaker. 

Listening is a skill that can help foster good relationships and bring two people even closer together. So let’s keep listening to what the other person has to say.

Dennis Relojo-Howell is the founder of Psychreg

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