Idris Elba has revealed that he has been seeing a therapist for a year, to tackle “unhealthy habits” linked to being a “workaholic”, something which he has been rewarded for. Melissa Day, therapist at Niroshini 360 explains that as people push themselves to work harder and for longer hours, they are sacrificing their mental and physical health in the process.
One of the fundamental causes of workaholism, lies in the belief that an individual’s value and self-worth are intricately tied to their performance at work. This belief is often reinforced by societal and cultural norms that glorify and reward individuals who sacrifice their personal lives and devote extensive hours to their jobs. Consequently, many individuals feel compelled to conform to these norms, even at the expense of their own mental and physical well-being. However, it is essential to recognise that genuine self-worth and value originate from within, rather than being dependent on external factors.
We also need to consider attachment. Attachment can be understood as a form of identification. When we perceive something as belonging to us, as a part of ourselves or as something we value, we tend to identify with it. Consequently, any events or circumstances affecting that particular thing, are perceived as happening “to us” personally. The objects or beliefs that we perceive as safeguarding our well-being and preserving our sense of self, are the ones we tend to be most attached to. For instance, consider a situation where you find yourself trapped in an unsatisfying job. Despite the immense suffering it causes and the hindrance it poses to personal growth, you remain in that job because you believe that money is the key to your well-being and self-preservation. Your attachment to money compels you to endure the hardships and confines of that job, effectively confining yourself within a metaphorical prison.
Seeking assistance from a therapist or counsellor can prove beneficial in addressing the underlying beliefs and patterns that contribute to work addiction.
“The current work and reward culture” is fuelling this work addiction mindset, making it difficult to enjoy life outside of work. As a result of this trend in today’s fast-paced world, the concept of “soft life” has become increasingly important. Soft life refers to a lifestyle that values comfort. Sadly, the idea of soft life has been lost in the toxic culture of productivity, that has taken over society.
#softlife has over a billion views on TikTok. The soft life movement originated in places such as Nigeria and other regions of the African continent but gained popularity through African American women, often portrayed as fictional characters on television.
Taking the time to recharge and unwind is not only beneficial for our mental health but also for our “healthy productivity” and creativity. Embracing a “soft life” means prioritising self-care and taking breaks when necessary, without feeling guilty or ashamed. It means recognising that our worth is not tied to our productivity and that we are allowed to enjoy life outside of work.
To lead a comfortable life, means embracing a more gratifying and contented existence. It is rooted in the pursuit of sustainable wellness. It’s about having a clear direction in life, pursuing a career or business that aligns with personal aspirations and prioritising holistic well-being. This starts by cultivating a positive mindset and acknowledging the deservingness of having a soft life.
After a long day at work, it’s important to take time for yourself to unwind and recharge. Here are some tips to help you relax and de-stress after work:
- Walking in nature. Nature can have a calming effect on the mind. The sounds of birds singing, leaves rustling and water flowing can help to soothe the nervous system and promote relaxation. Studies have shown that spending time in nature can also improve cognitive function, creativity and overall feelings of happiness.
- Take a bath. Soaking in a warm bath with some essential oils or bath salts can help ease tense muscles and calm your mind. It’s a perfect way to unwind and pamper yourself after a long day.Some of the best essential oils for baths include lavender, eucalyptus, peppermint and chamomile.
- 432 hz. Listening to healing sound frequencies can be an effective way to reduce stress and improve your mood. Try creating a relaxing playlist and take some time to listen to it and unwind.
- Short meditation. Short meditation sessions are a great way to build a habit of daily meditation which can lead to long-term benefits such as reduced stress, improved focus and increased self-awareness.
- Switch off your phone. Give yourself the opportunity to disconnect from the constant barrage of notifications and distractions. This gives your brain a chance to rest and recharge which in turn can lead to increased focus, creativity and productivity. Additionally, taking a break from your phone can help improve your sleep quality, as the blue light emitted from screens can interfere with your body’s natural sleep rhythms.
Remember, it’s important to take time for yourself to unwind and recharge after a long day at work. Find what works for you and make it a part of your daily routine.
Melissa Day, Therapist at Niroshini 360 commented: “The concept of “soft life” is a valuable reminder to slow down and to prioritise our well-being. By embracing this lifestyle, we can improve our mental and physical health, as well as our “healthy productivity” and creativity. Let us all take a step back, relax and enjoy the softer side of life!”