Can someone in love cheat?
When you are in love everything seems perfect. But soon things become different and certain changes take place in the relationship which if not noticed then can lead to severe problems in the future. A cheating partner is something to be worried about.
If you aren’t sure, then don’t be a fool to believe your partner and try to find out whether they are cheating on you.
Here are certain things that should give you the answer to your doubt of whether your partner is cheating on you:
Changed from being ordinary?
Well, your partner might go through mood swings or might really have some work in an office that would make him/her come home late. But when these things continue for a much longer time than expected, you must be aware of what actually your partner is doing.
Experiencing mood swings?
Even mood swings are to be noticed because a cheating lover most often will be forced to display negative feelings because of shame, guilt and anger.
Suddenly become secretive?
Hiding his/her text messages and not letting you touch his/her phone, leaving the room to take calls and most importantly getting angry if you suddenly decide to meet him/her unannounced and unplanned, are all signs that your partner is definitely hiding something from you.
Lying to you?
If you are suspicious about something, just ask your partner a question and remember the answer. After few days, ask the same question again and if your partner gives you a different answer or gets angry at you unnecessarily, then that’s a hint for you that he is hiding something.
Unexplained bills?
If you find that your partner has bills and receipts of or outings that you weren’t a part of or things that you dint receive then you should watch out.
Additional social network accounts?
Having additional social network accounts and being secretive about chats and mails are suspicious too. It clearly means your partner has something or the other to hide.
Ask for an explanation and observe their behaviour
When you are doubtful about anything, just ask your partner for an explanation. If they casually replies and is convincing enough then they might be telling the truth and you don’t need to worry about it, but if you find your partner just juggling with the answers, then they are lying.
Avoid introducing you to their friends?
If a person is true in their relationship, they wouldn’t mind introducing their partner to their friends. But if you find your partner avoiding their friends when with you, then there is something definitely wrong and must be addressed.
Open to you about their life?
A relationship should always be open and allow free flow of interactions about each other’s lives. But when your partner fails to do so and keeps a part of their life as a secret, then they are definitely hiding something.
Taking up new interests?
Interests change from time to time, but if you find your partner suddenly taking up new interests, especially things which they e used to dislike previously, then that’s a hint.
Experiencing a dry spell?
Of course, you spend dry spells in a relationship. But if it’s been long and your partner still seems disinterested for some play in bed, there’s something happening outside your watch area. They are getting their needs satisfied somewhere else and so doesn’t seek anything with you. It can also be the other way round, that is, the sex may considerably multiply. This happens when they weren’t to cover their guilt by providing you with some fun time on the bed.
Fighting on trivial matters?
Inconsequential things that never mattered earlier and suddenly the central point of a fight – if you can relate to this situation, it’s time for some serious action. Tough times pop up in every relationship but that doesn’t mean they will start getting furious on things that are non-existential. For instance, he might attack you for not cleaning the dishes properly or they might scream at you for not getting the groceries.
Extremely insecure?
We all need validation from time to time. Particularly people you are low in self-confidence needs to be reassured about how they matter in your life. ‘If you find your partner often questioning about whether or not you find them attractive and you refuse to give it… chances are he is finding the validation somewhere else.’ adds dating expert Amy Olson, from TryPair.com
Keeps asking about your location?
While there are some partners who just want to know where you will be either to surprise you or they care for you. But your partner was neither of this… yet they keep asking you about your location. Why? Because they don’t want to be caught red-handed in the act. I hope you know what I mean!
Seems emotionally disconnected?
Few months in your relationship, you feel comfortable around your partner. You don’t shy away from sharing anything but it’s not the other way round. Your partner seems off and disconnected. That’s because their focus is now shifted… to this new person.
It’s not necessary to acknowledge that all partners cheat, but at the same time, all romantic relationships are not true love. So judge well before doubting, but if you are confident then don’t hesitate to take any step because after all, it’s your life, don’t waste it.
Dennis Relojo-Howell is the managing director of Psychreg.
