- Feelings come and go. Feelings can change over time, which means if feelings you have for another led you to fall in love, then other feelings could just as easily lead you to fall out of love if you aren’t careful. It is important that the relationship not be based on feelings alone, but on a shared commitment to placing the relationship above one’s own personal desires.
- People change over the years. People have the capacity to grow and evolve in a number of ways. This is a healthy process of life but it doesn’t always work out that each partner is growing at the same pace or in the same direction. This calls for both to be able to adapt and embrace the changes each may make.
- Conflicts will always be present. The whole system of human interaction is perfectly created for conflict, and any relationship will never be immune to them. Conflicts of interest within a relationship can sometimes escalate into devastating and traumatic experiences. But it’s possible to rise above or defuse these situation. It all begins with understanding yourself so you can be true to who you are. It also means that you make sure that your significant other be true to themselves.
- With intention and commitment, everything can be overcome. Conflict resolution in a marriage is one of the most important ways to make it or break it. The best way to handle a disagreement is to try to find a way that allows both parties to feel good about the results rather than try to overpower the other. Discuss each of your points of view and be sure to listen to each other while respecting their opinions.
Trying to give advice on how to make a marriage work is tricky, especially when speaking in general terms, because what might work for one couple might be exactly wrong for another. One thing is clear to those who are married and want to remain married—communication between partners is critical and deserves equal attention by both.
Please remember that communication requires listening even more than speaking your mind. That can be the most valuable thing you can give your spouse on this special day!
Scott Trettenero’s recent book, Master the Mystery of Human Nature: Resolving the Conflict of Opposing Values helps readers learn about themselves, others and how the world works because of our differences. Scott has maintained a solo dental practice in Southwest Florida since 1981. His research on quality service in dentistry and his interest in human temperaments formed the basis for his first book, Unlocking the T-Code. He is married and has two children. You can follow him on Twitter @