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3 Red Flags Could End Your Holiday Buddy’s Next Trip with You

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Whether you’re off on a family holiday, a fun-filled trip with your friends, or a first-time excursion with a new partner, going away is always exciting. But all that time together means you learn a lot about who you travel with, making it a true test for any relationship.

In fact, a recent survey by Ocean Florida shows it only takes three red flags to prevent someone from going on holiday with you again, with being rude to staff being the nation’s biggest red flag in a travel buddy.

To help understand what makes us tick on holiday, Ocean Florida surveyed 2,000 UK adults, revealing the nation’s top red flags when it comes to travelling with others, and has teamed up with BACP registered counsellor Georgina Sturmer, to understand why holidays are so high-pressure and how to avoid fallouts.

Holidays can be sink or swim

Being on holiday presents the opportunity for some quality time. Whether that be sitting together on a long-haul flight to Florida, or sharing a villa, being in each other’s space in a new environment can certainly lift the veil on people’s quirks.

Georgina states: “The things that we often ignore, or find endearing about each other, can sometimes feel more intense or annoying when we are on holiday together,” meaning it can be easier to notice red flags that might rub you the wrong way. 

Georgina explained: “A ‘red flag’ is more than just a one-off misstep. It’s a sign that something isn’t quite right in how we feel about this person.  In everyday life, it’s easy to brush off these ‘red flags’. But on holiday, we spend much more time with each other, and we might start noticing them more frequently.”

Top 7 red flags, according to Brits

  • Being rude to staff (73%) 
  • Getting drunk for the majority of the trip (57%) 
  • Listening to music out loud (50%) 
  • Always being on the phone (49%) 
  • Getting your bare feet out on a plane (44%) 
  • Wearing socks with sandals (39%) 
  • Clapping when the plane lands (36%)

When delving into the nation’s top red flags, it seems that some are more serious than others. Being rude to staff and always being on your phone might be the most obvious scenarios that raise alarm bells, but even the little things, such as wearing socks with sandals and clapping when the plane lands, can be enough to turn people off.

Georgina said: “Something might seem unassuming, but yet it still makes us feel uncomfortable.  This is because it’s not so much about the action itself, but more about how it makes us see that person. 

“For example, if we find it annoying when someone claps when the plane lands, it could be because we consider that to be the traits of someone loud and abrasive more generally. So these small ‘red flags’ often indicate a bigger picture.”

Commenting on those who can only tolerate three red flags before cutting a travel buddy loose, Georgina says: “It’s easy to brush off, or make excuses for an initial ‘red flag’.  Maybe someone’s having an off day, or acting out of character. 

“If we see this behaviour in different contexts, however, then we become aware that it wasn’t just a one-off action, and perhaps there is something fundamentally unappealing about our friend’s character or personality.  It makes it harder for us to ignore their behaviour and want to spend prolonged periods of time in their company.”

How to not let red flags ruin your time away

The research found that 1 in 5 (21%) of us have suffered a short-term fallout after being on holiday with someone, while one in six (17%) chose to never travel with the culprit again. 

To prevent potential arguments and ensure you still have a positive trip, Georgina shares her top tips on how to manage your relationships while away on holiday.

  • Consider sharing how you feel. Don’t assume that the person who is displaying frustrating characteristics is doing it on purpose or even realises that they are causing frustration. Georgina states: “Maybe the other person is totally unaware of the impact of their behaviour.  If you are going to consider broaching this with them, then use ‘I feel statements’.  This enables us to share how we feel, without accusation or aggression.”
  • Lead by example. Being the bigger person and leading by example may encourage them to reflect this behaviour back. Georgina suggests: “If someone else’s behaviour is bugging you, like constantly being on their phone, then role model the behaviour that you would like to see. Tell them how much you’re enjoying putting your phone away and having the opportunity to decompress. This may make them more conscious of the fact.”
  • Figure out what’s really bothering you. Ask yourself: “Is this really a red flag or is it your problem?” Georgina asks: “Do you genuinely think that they have an annoying habit? Or is there something deeper going on for you? Perhaps their behaviour is somehow triggering a deeper level of anger, frustration or resentment that you feel. If that’s the case, then it’s worth looking at it further, rather than blaming the other person.”

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