Having suffered with a mental illness myself, I have been on the receiving end of the comments and the stigma which surrounds mental health and related illnesses. I feel that in the world we live in at present there isn’t enough understanding or acceptance of mental illness. While suffering with anxiety and low mood, I received comments such as “incapacitated”; making me feel that because I had anxiety and low mood, I wasn’t able to function as I did previously. I was also told to “wait until I was better” before making decisions in my life. Again this made me feel worthless and I was not capable of normal functions, I felt “written off” and as though I was damaged goods.
The point at which I would like to make is that there needs to be more awareness and understanding when it comes to mental health illness, as it’s still looked upon as it was in Victorian times. One of the major issues which I had was because people could not see what was wrong with me, therefore they felt it was alright to say you will get over it; chin up, it’s just a bad day. There were days I much preferred to be on my own, because I felt no one was listening to how I felt because they could not see a cut, or a gash, or a physical injury they assumed I was fine; it was brushed off as nothing. It was at times like these when I began to feel I was alone. I had no one to turn to and there was only one way out. I feel that when a family member is either diagnosed with a mental illness, or like me admits it and seeks help; I think the whole family should be involved in the process. This would allow time for questions from both sides, and in a controlled atmosphere the family can have the opportunity to speak with a professional about their loved ones’ illness. It would also involve the whole family in the recovery process. By approaching the therapy as a family but centred on the person who is with a mental illness, would reduce the rates of suicide, as the person who is suffering knows they can talk to their family, this based on my own thoughts. On the other hand the family will know how to deal with that person in their times of need.
To anyone who is, or has, suffered a mental illness, they should not have to face it alone, and they definitely should feel alone, when they are surrounded by family. Family will always want to do the right thing, they may not know what that is though. If they try to work it out for themselves, as in my case, they made some bad days, my worst days ever. This is by no means was my family’s fault. It is the lack of knowledge and understanding of mental illnesses, as they are in my opinion, still a taboo topic in some social classes and societies in the present day.
Dale Burden studied psychology and neuroscience. Having suffered with depression and anxiety, Dale wanted to better his understanding of mental health and the treatments available. He has therefore recently qualified as a Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) practitioner. In his down time, Dale enjoy building plastic models, reading and spending time with family. He is now in the process of developing his own business, and writing a few books relating to mental health and the related issues. You can follow him on Twitter @