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Managing Your Kid with Autism as a Single Mum

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Entering the realm of single parenthood, especially as the mother of an autistic child, presents a unique set of challenges. You may grapple with a whirlwind of emotions post-divorce, from guilt to relief. This transition not only reshapes your personal identity but also redefines your parenting responsibilities, requiring immense strength and adaptation. 

Expect emotional adjustments and lean into personal growth 

After splitting from your significant other, as a single mother of a child with autism, you embark on a journey filled with varied emotions. You may oscillate between guilt and relief, depression and anger, as you cope with the profound changes that healing is a process. 

Embracing your new role as a single parent, you’ll discover that your responsibilities have evolved significantly. This period of transition becomes a crucial time for personal growth and self-discovery. It’s time to trust your capabilities and find confidence in your newfound independence. Self-care also becomes not just beneficial but necessary. Take time for activities that rejuvenate you – a simple walk, reading a book, or spending time with friends. These moments are investments in your ability to be the best parent you can be for your child.

Build a support system 

The journey is often isolating, making community support invaluable. Getting together with other single parents, especially those with special needs children, can provide a sense of solidarity and understanding. Reach out and connect with those who can share experiences and strategies. Joining or creating an autism spectrum disorder (ASD) support group can be a lifeline by offering emotional support, practical advice, and local resources. 

Maintaining a work-life/parenting balance

Full-time employment while addressing the needs of a child with sensory issues can be overwhelming. It necessitates evaluating the pros and cons of reducing work hours or ceasing work altogether. This decision requires you to consider personal preference as well as a financial calculation. Consider the feasibility of a reduced income versus the need to work to afford specialised care and therapies. To facilitate this, creating a detailed budget that includes all autism-related expenses and exploring financial aid, grants, or community resources can be invaluable.

Equally important is understanding your child’s specific needs and your capacity for caregiving. Evaluate how your child responds to different environments, like structured school settings versus personalised attention at home, and if working, look into reliable childcare or special education programmes that cater to these needs. 

You must also honestly assess your emotional and mental readiness to take on full-time caregiving. Recognising your limits and seeking support through home aide services, respite care, or support groups is essential. A balanced approach, considering financial implications, your child’s needs, and your well-being, is the way to make a decision that supports you and your child.

Take advantage of school and community resources 

Local school districts and agencies often offer a range of services provided specifically to children with autism. These can include specialized educational programs, therapy services, and additional support systems. Accepting help from these resources can provide significant relief in managing your child’s needs. 

Understanding the value of early intervention programs such as speech and occupational therapy, often provided by county or local organizations, can make a substantial difference in the development and progress of your child. Leveraging these resources fosters your child’s development and provides a support network for you as a single parent.

Practical tips that work

  • Give yourself grace. Adapt household rules to reduce pressure, like cooking less or cleaning less, to ease the burden of trying to be a perfect parent.
  • Seek help without embarrassment. Don’t hesitate to involve friends and family, create a grandparents’ day, or trade carpooling with other parents. Assistance can also come from community resources, offering much-needed support.
  • Establish bonding activities. Dedicate days for special activities with your autistic child, such as watching a movie or visiting a bookstore, to strengthen your relationship.
  • Maintain a routine. Establish a consistent daily routine that works for both you and your child, as predictability can be comforting for children with autism.
  • Educate yourself. Stay informed about autism and parenting strategies through books, online resources, or workshops to better understand and support your child.
  • Enjoy Shared Experiences. These activities can be a source of joy and connection, making your journey as a single parent more manageable and fulfilling.


Single mothers journeying through the complexities of raising autistic children clearly embody remarkable strength and resilience. These mothers often become advocates for their children, navigating educational systems and healthcare services to ensure their child receives the necessary accommodations and opportunities. They might learn new skills, from understanding legal rights to becoming versed in therapeutic strategies. Every decision made in the interest of a single mother’s child’s well-being is a testament to their unwavering dedication and love.

Ellen Diamond, a psychology graduate from the University of Hertfordshire, has a keen interest in the fields of mental health, wellness, and lifestyle.

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