Have you at some point felt that you are inferior to others? That’s normal. All of us at some point in our lives have felt the same. Growing up, we saw other kids who performed better than us in the class. Kids who played sports well. Kids who were loved by all. We got jealous. We felt inferior to them. We constantly compared ourselves to them.
Almost everyone has experienced that in their childhood. But, do you still feel the same about others? Do you constantly analyse situations and people around you? Do you feel worthless? Then you probably have an inferiority complex.
What is inferiority complex? It is a feeling of not matching up to standards, lack of self-esteem, and a constant doubt about yourself. Such people are too bothered about what others think of them. They are constantly comparing themselves to others.
As a result, they start avoiding people. They become asocial. They label themselves as failures, and avoid challenging situations in order to avoid failures. They develop their own ways of responding to situations, often backed by a defence mechanism. Now the question arises if this is curable? Yes, it is. Often some therapy sessions in Mobberley, UK can help you get rid of the complex. These sessions explore the origins of your beliefs and notions, and help you rewrite your beliefs.
Another good news is that you completely overcome inferiority complex yourself. What you need to do is follow these five strategies. Practise them consistently and you will start noticing a difference. Let’s take a look at these strategies.
Build self-confidence
Treat yourself better. Act confident. Do what you love. Embrace yourself. Is there anything in your body that you don’t feel confident about? Maybe your smile, your nose or your hair? The trick here is to either accept yourself the way you are or do something about it. Like you can get dental implants in Mobberley, to feel confident about your smile. If you have curly hair, get your hair straightened. Do whatever makes you feel better about yourself.
Surround yourself with people who uplift you
It’s important to realise that your inferiority complex might be linked to the people around you. It might be your relatives, your friends at college, your siblings or your colleagues. Analyse your interactions with them.
Once you are able to identify people who try to pull you down, do not reciprocate your feelings or are not very encouraging, start distancing yourself from them. Look for people who are positive, who uplift you and who bring out the better version of yourself. Take efforts to develop a relationship with them.
Stop worrying about what other people think
One major cause of inferiority complexes is constantly thinking about what others are thinking about us. We seek validation from them for every action of ours. Sometimes we are thinking about their actions, while sometimes we are imagining what they think.
Disassociate yourself from their judgements. It’s ultimately your opinion about yourself that matters. When we feel good about ourselves, others feel good about ourselves.
Do not be harsh on yourself
There is absolutely no need to be harsh on yourself. Practice self care. Love yourself. Be kind to yourself. Do not over analyse situations. Do not expect yourself to change overnight. Give yourself time to heal.
Self-talk
Practice positive self-talk. Encourage yourself. Praise yourself for all the good traits that you have. People who have an inferiority complex tend to do negative self talk to themselves. Try to change the tone and words that you use for yourself.
Final thoughts
Try to surround yourself with people who uplift you. Join clubs, sign up for classes, connect with people online, do whatever it takes to bring that change in you.
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Peter Wallace has been an advocate for mental health awareness for years. He holds a master’s degree in counselling from the University of Edinburgh.
