For many, the month of February is considered a love month. Valentine’s Day, held annually on 14th February, is when lovers express their affection with greetings and gifts. The holiday has origins in the Roman festival of Lupercalia, held in mid-February. Historically, the festival, which celebrated the coming of spring, included fertility rites and the pairing off of women with men by lottery.
But in whatever month it may fall, expressing one’s love does not require a month. However, there are people in a relationship who face different common relationship issues and find themselves struggling to express their love. For some people, to feel loved, they want to give and receive gifts, and spend time doing hobbies together. How do you express your love to your partner?
Cuddle most of the time
Any kind of physical touch is an expression of love, like holding hands, the pats on the back, and hugs are expressions of love non-verbally. There is emotional power in hugging and holding hands. Communicating the language of love is taking an initiative to reach out and touch your partner. Always find a way to express your love using the language of touch.
Express yourself using appreciative words
The way how you communicate should sound appreciative. Use your verbal words correctly, whenever your partner did something good, whether that is a simple thing to more complicated acts, expressing appreciation can make a huge impact on your relationship.
Make your partner feel appreciated and loved by thoughtful giving of gifts. Make it a point that during special occasions you have gifts to give – they need not be expensive. Little things mean a lot to someone who receives the gift. Find something that your partner has been asking for, and whether there is a special occasion or not, surely your partner will enjoy receiving a gift from you. It is the effort and gratefulness that matter.
Offer a helping hand
It does not end on the wordy expressions or physical touch to show how much you love your partner, showing your love also needs action. Doing chores together adds to the flavour of a more romantic relationship. It is helping your partner to share physical responsibility at home. Sharing the obligation, whether a small or big task, is important to your relationship. Try to do laundry, cook a meal, walk your dogs, and put the garbage out – these are some simple thoughts that require less effort and time, yet show genuinely how much you care for your partner.
Spend quality time
Give your undivided attention to your partner – doing things that both of you enjoy is one of the ways you can show your love. Focus whenever you are having a conversation, although technology brings us convenience, always have a meaningful face-to-face conversation. Doing what both of you love is also a good way to spend quality time together – you can prepare dinner together, walk together, or just sit down on your couch and share your plans. There is no replacement for sharing precious time.
In whatever ways you are expressing your love to your partner, what matters is both of you understand your language of love and work together for your long-lasting relationship.
Rona dela Rosa is the content manager of Psychreg. She is an associate professor at the Polytechnic College of the City of Meycauyan.