Heartbreaks are inevitable whether you are in a relationship or not, and you may feel as though your heart has been broken a thousand times. Healing from heartbreak is a long process, and some may not be ready to accept and recover from this trauma. So we tend to escape and choose the easiest route, and maybe the way to mend a broken heart is to break someone’s heart also – a rebound love.
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone where you feel that you are the rebound? The person has chosen to help heal the trauma of others – that person is being used to escape the pain of feeling heartbroken. Why do others choose this path even knowing that the trauma they have can be passed to another person who does not cause them the pain they are feeling?
Insider defines a rebound relationship as a relationship that can occur when someone is dating a new person without being entirely over their past relationship. Those in a rebound relationship may feel like their relationship is moving very fast or their partner isn’t committing to plans.
From the psychological perspective of a rebound relationship, people tend to do this to fix their broken egos. The emotional damage can’t be handled at the present time, and they find that the easiest way to heal is to give their love to another person to help them meet their emotional needs.
The term ‘rebound’ may not be as pleasing as we want it to be when we hear it. It may have a negative connotation when it comes to relationships. But, ironic as it may seem, there are several things that we may view as positive from being in a rebound relationship, such as:
- Having this kind of relationship may be helpful to you to heal and move on from a past relationship.
- A new relationship seems to be rewarding and helps to lower the attachment from the previous relationship and make it less likely to get back with an ex-lover. Focusing on someone new lessens the attachment and helps an individual to let go of an ex.
- Being in this relationship is beneficial for our well-being – creating new happy memories with someone allows us to forget the failed relationship.
- It boosts our self-confidence that, despite what happened, we are still capable of gearing up ourselves and being prepared to love once again.
- Lastly, opposite to what our friends may say, a rebound relation can work out and make us happy.
Love changes us and makes us human at the same time. The failed relationship happened for a reason – to teach us a lesson, make us a better person, or even the best way to run from the wrong person we once thought was right for us. If having a new relationship will make us happy, then so be it. What matters, after all, is our peace of mind, well-being, and happiness. We choose what makes us happy. Just a friendly reminder to not let your pain transmit to the person who only wants to make you happy – your rebound love.
Dina Relojo is the social media manager of Psychreg. She is a teacher from the Philippines.